...to cut off my dreads.
I asked J to buy some conditioner today and planned to cut them off this evening.
Now I'm having second thoughts.
Had the dreads for four years. That's a long time, and yet I told myself I would keep them for at least five.
What to do, what to do? On the one hand I'm ready for a change and the other, I'm afraid I'll regret it.
I asked J to buy some conditioner today and planned to cut them off this evening.
Now I'm having second thoughts.
Had the dreads for four years. That's a long time, and yet I told myself I would keep them for at least five.
What to do, what to do? On the one hand I'm ready for a change and the other, I'm afraid I'll regret it.
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but not as in shave my head, which is unnecessary and a myth about ending one's relation with dreads,
.... I'm realizing now, though, that I don't know anything about what it means to have them or to get rid of them--is it something that, symbolically speaking, you can't go back on? My comment above is based purely on the mechanics of hair growing, etc. But if you're not supposed to make dreads having once gotten rid of them, I could see how it would be a harder decision.
... I'm for de-investing these decisions with importance, because otherwise we sometimes cripple ourselves needlessly. I was wedded to the notion of myself with long hair and had a hard time cutting it, though I really wanted to. Finally, one day, I did, and then I spent about 15 years with short or medium-length hair. Now it's back to being long again.
You sure do look beautiful with those dreads, but I know there'll be many ways for you to be beautiful.
You are a very wise woman!
You sure do look beautiful with those dreads, but I know there'll be many ways for you to be beautiful
And very sweet!
Turns out, though, that washing one's dreads frequently is the best way to tighten them and getting them looking good, so mine were pretty nice from the first year on.
If you feel like they're still 'you,' keep them. If not, go without. Enough has changed in your life since then to justify feeling like a different person.