I don't seek out these moments; they find me on their own, usually to my chagrin. And I think one of my current projects, Witherwilds (the working title of the trilogy), is going to be conducive to that mindset. I'm going to be dealing with some difficult subjects that are likely to make me rather ruminative and hermitic.
In an effort to be helpful, Real Life has been throwing situations at friends, family, and me that it deems will be useful when I'm in need of acessing difficult emotions. Bah.
So, if I'm bad company, it's not because I mean to be.